Uninvolved parenting can also be known as neglectful parenting. Parents tend to not be involved in their child’s life, and although they provide them with the basics, they are hands-off. Unlike authoritarian, authoritative, and uninvolved parents, uninvolved parents are neither overly strict or overly coddling.
You might be an uninvolved parent if you:
- Are not deeply involved in your children’s lives, often skipping out on field trips or friends’s birthday parties.
- Are also more emotionally distant from your children and do not try and understand their feelings. You also do not show much affection.
- Do not have many rules for your children or expectations for their behavior. Even if you do, you often do not follow through with the consequences.
- Are more involved with your own problems and life than those of your children.
- Are hands off when it comes to learning and education and usually let your children learn for themselves, whether it be in school or at home.
How children are affected:
- These children are often very self-sufficient and learn from a young age to provide for themselves.
- Socially they can be distant or withdrawn and are suspicious of becoming too close to others.
- They tend to get into trouble more often, since they are not used to rules or consequences.
- They also have increased levels of fear, anxiety, and stress, but often do not know how to communicate this or deal with it in a healthy manner.
It is important to understand the impact of parent involvement in your children’s lives for overall development. Children need parents to be present and to be nurturing but also to set examples of behavior. Children who have parents that are active in their development turn out to be healthier socially, emotionally, and behaviorally in adolescence and adulthood. Make time for your children every day and focus on understanding their needs. If you have trouble connecting with your children, you can talk to your pediatrician or a therapist for advice.